Monday, August 8, 2011
Friends Categorized
FRIEND:-A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself
I have now experienced life for more than twenty four years and in all these years, I have come across many people, who became friends, but, all of different kinds. I have travelled, shifted home, passed college, changed places, and so, there are a variety of friends that I made at every turn.
On Friendship Day, I categorise the kind of people I have met in my friend list categories.
Childhood Friends
At an age, when innocence dominated my mannerisms, I made friends, when I did not even know the meaning of the word. I just knew that these were people I can play with, I can fight with, I can eat with and I can tell their names to people who kept asking me, "Do you have friends in school baby?"
Today, many of those friends are nowhere in the picture, but then, thanks to social media, I have managed to get in touch with the ones that I remember, and the ones who remember me. But, they remain childhood friends, and somehow, it's not the same equation with them now.
School Friends
School is probably one place where a person makes the maximum number of friends. There is nothing better than belonging to a great group of friends and nothing worse than feeling like an outcast.Fortunately I belonged to the first group.Till primary these were the friends,with whom I walked through the school corridors,with whom I shared my tiffin box,with whom I shared some secrets,with whom I played cricket ,with whom I studied and of course,with whom I had fights.
But school friends were always fun friends. They would never ask for anything more than an extra pencil or an extra pen. To add to this category is also 'Tuition friends', who are similar.
Then we went to secy school.Our friendship blossomed.The bonding became even more stronger.Our friendship was no more only tiffin friends or study table friends,it became lot more than that.We knew each other inside out.Some of them, still remain a special part.
College Friends
By the time, one enters college, a child becomes a youngster and a 'mature adult'. College was place, where everyone was a friend, but with a 'conditions apply' tag. College taught me a different kind of friendship altogether.
Here, I saw friends for 'notes', friends for fun, friends for hanging out with, friends for drinks, friends for work, and yes, friends...just plain friends.
Crush Friends
This is a dangerous category of friends. These are friends I have to be very careful with, while talking to. The list of people under this category is very short one with hardly a couple of names. These are friends, I have had a crush on, but, they still are my friends.
While I have liked them in a different way, but with the passage of time, they have gone back to what they were - Friends. Guess, it's safe to keep it that way than losing them.
Cricket Friends
Cricket holds a special place in my life as it keeps me away from all the hullabaloos of life's stress. Therefore, cricket friends are the ones, I always end up having a good time with, alongside with some friendly banters.
Work Friends
Work friends are people I spend the most of my time with now-a-days. While we are in office, along with sharing a formal official relationship, some of us are friends, in a sense that we chat about things other than work, we give and take suggestions about our life, we gossip, and again, we eat together.
However, the fact remains that we're 'Office Friends' or 'Work Friends' and so, the relationship remains restricted and within limits.
Neighbourhood Friends
With shifting houses from Puri to Bhubaneswar and then to Kolkata , neighbourhood friends have been another 'come and go' affair with me. When at home, these are friends who make life lighter, in the sense that after a busy day out, friends in the neighbourhood give you a reason for a nice chat or a walk around the streets at the end of the day.
Family Friends
While I like some family friends, there are others who I feel are forced upon me. I have to be friends with them as they have a connection with my family.
Random Facebook Friends
Well, I must admit that half of these friends are people whose names are there in my social networking friend lists only because we have a lot of mutual friends, or because they are friends of friends.
These are people I hardly know, to be honest.
Friends
Yes, just plain friends as I can't define people in this category under a better word. The list is small, with very few people and these people are genuine friends. They have been there through the thick and thin. They are not my friends for any motive. They enjoy my company and I enjoy theirs.
From school friends, to family friends, they cover all categories and make a perfect 'buddy'. These are friends I don't need to explain things to. They just understand, and they are the people I can never end up having a bad time with, even if we fight or argue.
Dedicated to all my friends
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